The "H" and the "A"

My opinion of how a relationship should be tends to be a shy bit different from others. In the beginning of a relationship everyone is all about leaning on the other one, depending on them for everything "the A" and then one day they wake up and find that the relationship is not working out. Both male and female are torn  because they had depended on each other so much in the beginning, they didn't give the relationship time to ferment...they rushed the gun. A relationship needs to be like an "H", each party needs to be able to stand firm on their own two feet and join hands before leaning on the other. As time goes on the tops of the "H" will start to merge together and form an "A"...yes I know, this all sounds silly, comparing a relationship to letters in the alphabet but seriously try to picture it in your mind. With the "H" each individual is strong, steadfast...they are able to stand on their own two feet without having to lean on the other for support, whether that be emotionally, financially, physically, the list goes on and on. As the 2 parties start to form a true love for one another, as they start to form a life together, they start making the "A"...I hope and pray that one day I will make it to the 'H" point, then eventually to the "A" point with a man, but right now I'm still working on the "I"...and that's alright by me!